HOW TO CHECK IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 1

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HOW TO CHECK IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 1

HOW TO CHECK IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 1

IS THERE FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE?

“No celebration is complete without good food, no marriage is complete without being friends”- Bisi Adewale

I want you to look at your marriage critically. Is there friendship in it, or are you just husband/wife or friends?

In a couple’s conference recently, I requested that couples should pray for their best friends wherever they were. I later asked them individually to tell me who they prayed for. Only about ten percent prayed for their spouses. That is to say only 10% of the couples see their spouses as their friends; no wonder there are problems in many marriages.

Feeling of love, like any other feeling, is not constant. It goes up and down. You may not feel the way you were feeling before you got married, the “twinkle star” may not really be there again, but if you have learnt to build friendship, your marriage can last forever.

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If there is friendship in your marriage, you will find the following there:

  1. Your husband/wife will be your confidant– “Who is your confidant?” Merilee Boyack once asked-“who do you share everything with?” He then said, “if it is not your spouse, it is the wrong person!”
  2. You play together– Friends do play together; if there is friendship in your marriage you and your spouse will find playfulness a joy.
  3. Respect each other– Friends do honour and respect each other. If respect is lacking in your home, it means friendship is lacking.
  4. Openness– No darkroom between friends. They talk openly, freely and deeply.
  5. Friendly touch- A friend is someone you love to touch, friends do stand and stay close. Touch each other generously and comfortably; a friend’s touch is known to be comforting. If the only reason you touch each other in your marriage is for sex, then there is no friendship in your marriage.
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HOW TO CHECK IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 1
HOW TO CHECK IF THERE IS FRIENDSHIP IN YOUR MARRIAGE – Part 1

Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on familybooster@gmail.com, 08068312004, Whatsaap 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog:  www.bisiadewale.com, facebook.com/PastorBisiAdewale.Twitter @bisiadewale