How To Overcome Insecurity In Marriage

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How To Overcome Insecurity In Marriage

-Bisi Adewale

How To Overcome Insecurity In Marriage

“Forsake the foolish, and live; and go in the way of understanding”

(Proverbs 9:6) How To Overcome Insecurity In Marriage

Feeling of being insecure with one’s spouse can also destroy any marriage no matter how good the marriage looks.How To Overcome Insecurity In Marriage

Insecurity simply means a state of not feeling at all confident about yourself, your abilities, your relationship or your spouse.How To Overcome Insecurity In Marriage


  1. Past failed relationship. A lady who was jilted severally before getting married may find it difficult to feel secure in marriage.
  2. Problematic childhood. This can also cause it.
  3. Lack of growth. A stagnant man with a more successful wife can start to feel insecure.
  4. Emotional problem. This can come out of worry, fear, low-self esteem, etc.
  5. Negative thinking. Negative thought system too can lead to insecurity. If you are fond of thinking badly about yourself, your spouse and your marriage, it may lead to insecurity.
  6. If you are fond of suspecting your spouse without any justification for it, insecurity will set in.
  7. Negative information and rumour. When you listen to negative information and rumour, you are likely going to become insecure.
  8. Not being able to differentiate between thinking and reality. Our thoughts most of the time are not real but when we ruminate on them for too long, they developing images that appear real. That is why we must never allow negative thought in our life.
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 Results of Insecurity in Marriage

Insecurity leads to lots of negative things in marriage if not dealt with.

  1. False accusation. It can lead to accusation of infidelity, witchcraft, stealing, lovelessness, etc.
  2. Lack of trust.
  3. Jealousy
  4. Nagging and monitoring. A man stops his wife from working on the false accusation of infidelity, collected her phone and monitors her 24/7.
  5. Strife and domestic wars.
  6. Fear


  • Locate the real cause of your insecurity.
  • Deal with your past and childhood problems.
  • Go for counsel
  • Discuss with your spouse.
  • Blood wash your heart regularly.
  • Meditate upon the word of God.
  • Grow and develop yourself. If you remain stagnant, you will soon become insecure if your spouse continues to grow and you don’t.
  • Listen to Audio/video messages and fellowship with the people of God.


Pastor Bisi Adewale is a family and relationship expert; author of Secret of Irresistible Wife and more than 70 other books on marriage and family life. You can reach him on, 08068312004, 08051512823, BB: 2AF5C883, Blog: