Hope you know you should be someone’s miracle…
Everyday, we read and talk about God creating the woman as the man’s ‘helpmeet’ and yet, lots of marriages don’t have helpmates. Help mates are not something like house helps or house maids. Help mate is a companion. Help mates are vision bearers. Help mates are purpose mates. Help mates are never left out of the drawing board. Secrets are not kept from them. They are just the same as the ship captain. Most times, they drive the ship out of the wreck because that is their core God’s given assignments.
Most people are hired by the airport authority and their only job is to be at the control tower to watch airplanes coming in and taking off. They make sure two airplanes don’t land at the same time from the same direction and and also not to take off the same time from the same direction. Such people are hardly seen on the ground inspecting a packed aircraft because they really know their assignment. Most women still have this funfair mentality about marriage stored up in their brain and that is the limit they believe about marriage. Their idea about mariage is about someone who would love and pet them always even when they are irrelevant.
You have an assignment in your marriage. The man is a help mate to his woman as much as the woman is his help mate too. A man and his woman are brought together to make a purpose work. If in a marriage the man is not talking with his wife about his life and work, he is shutting down the most important part of his marriage. Every woman in marriage should have the detail of her husband’s life and work. She is not a hired worker in her husband’s life neither a stranger. A woman who is smart in her own eyes will ultimately fail. This has been tested severally and the result remains the same.
I have worked with a man who hated nothing but letting his wife know about his work. There was a time things got so bad that he was borrowing money to sustain his family and yet, he couldn’t let his wife know about the change in his work. Everyday, he kept warning us not to disclose anything to his wife. The funniest thing about it all is the fact that his wife never knew where her husband’s firm was at. The woman can never at any chance trace her husband’s office but she was proud to be someone’s wife. Gradually, the business failed and the woman still couldn’t know why her husband’s business closed up. She sat silently and embraced herself and her husband sitting at home as two workless people.
I once asked a woman, ‘Tell me your husband’s car plate number’. She laughed and said, ‘How would I know. Do I drive his car? There and then, I made her to know that the problems in her marriage is as a result of her not being able to have details. How can you take a ship through the storm when you don’t know where its steering is? You want to succeed in your marriage but you don’t talk about your husband’s or wife’s business or work with him or her? Most men have wrongly borrowed money out from their business money because there was no one to talk about it first with even though they have wives at home. The duo just never connected cos either of them might have been selfish at some point thereby killing the trust that the marriage needed to thrive.
Marriage is a place God has brought two fine minds together to change the world and not just to fail. The first thing God pointed out to the man and woman as He made them was purpose.-Genesis1:27-31. Purpose is the essence of marriage. When you continually point to your spouse that you’re against the ultimate vision of your coming together, you’re definitely headed for the rocks. The woman should respect and listen while the man should respect and consult. it is a collaboration, a partnership. From the moment you said “I do”, your parents become secondary. A woman who is not weaned from the apron strings of her parents will fail in marriage.
Now that you are getting married or already in marriage, you are someone’s reason to succeed. Naomi had accepted to quit from life and hope for the future but Ruth held her and said, ‘Let us cross this boundary together into your place. Whatever that lies ahead of there, we will conquer’. Naomi had nothing at where she was coming from and there was also nothing at where she was going to but Ruth was like a man or woman about to be married to someone like Naomi. She saw the future and not just where Naomi was standing at. She took it upon herself to give her hope and faith. When they got to where they were going, she stood up and made commitments.
She was a purpose driven woman. Nevertheless, Who are you?
HOW TO BECOME A MIRACLE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
HOW TO BECOME A MIRACLE IN YOUR MARRIAGE