A lot of marriages begin the journey along the downward slope even before they got to the altar. Many people unknowingly sign a contract of marital failure before their wedding as a result of the choice of life partner and the foundation they laid.
- 1. Bad Association. Except a solid foundation is laid, the absence of a foundation wrong foundation can create problems in marriages.
“For other foundation can no man lay than that is laid which is Christ Jesus”. 1 Corinthians 13:11. If your foundation is built on money, wealth, beauty, position, gift, etc regret is inevitable. A solid foundation must be based on Christ Jesus.
Solution: Singles should be careful as they choose who to marry. Marry in God; marry for the future not for today.
- 2. Impure Courtship. Fornication, transgression of the laws of God without fear or regard, cohabitation, abortions as a result of unwanted pregnancies do not go without their repercussions. You can’t transgress the law of God and go scot free; it doesn’t work that way. It has repercussion.
Solution: Renounce your past misdeeds as engaged couples and during your courtship days, as you seek forgiveness from God. Repent and ask for mercy from God. Singles should avoid sexual sins in courtship as much as possible. You can get book, pure courtship, for more on this).
- 3. Lack of preparation. In a major number of cases, the preparation for the wedding usually supersedes the preparation for marriage. Preparation is the mother of manifestation. If you don’t prepare, you will have many things to repair. Many guys who did not prepare to become husbands and fathers while many ladies who never prepared to be wives and mothers, made a mess of the stage once they found themselves in it.
Solution: Singles should prepare meticulously for marriage. Improve yourself. Learn how to function as a wife or husband, mother or father. Learn the act of marriage; get matured. Attend pre-marital trainings, seminars, read marriage books, listen to teachings, tapes and attend marriage schools. Learn good things, unlearn bad character and re-learn the old characters you have dropped along the line. Set your mind up for the best.
- 4. Wrong mental attitude. Marital failure is certain in the presence of a wrong mental attitude. Our mental attitude spurs our actions and reactions. It determines how we relate to people, situations or events. Some folks believe marriage is equal to bondage. In fact, some sugarcoat it as“bondage of love”. Some believe women are necessary evils while the men are not to be trusted”. While some men believe that a woman is to be treated as a foot mat “immaterial thing” not as a personality. Some women believe men are monsters. A majority of women believe that in-laws are bad. The list is endless. You can’t have this kind of mentality and not misbehave in marriage.
Solution: Whose report shall you believe? Stick with what God says about marriage. See marriage the way He sees it. Ecclesiastes 9:9
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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