5 Phases of Marital Love
ð Phase 1- Attraction. This is what we call “face love” it involves accepting the outlook of your spouse and be intoxicated by it. As soon as a man loses interest in the outlook and dressing of his wife, then it will affect other faces of love. Both husband and wife should train themselves to be interested in the outlook of their spouses, while everybody should do one thing or the other to look nice and durable.
ð Phase 2- Emotion. This is what we do refer to as “mind love”. It involves giving room for deep affection toward one’s spouse. It is heartfelt love; it is always high shortly before wedding, during honey moon and shortly after. But most of the time, it doesn’t last as couple begin to take each other for granted , neglecting to be kind to each other, it affect their feelings to each other and kill the “mind love”. In turn, hurts, bitterness, resentment and hatred takes over making the marriage to be difficult.
ð Phase 3- Compulsion Love. It is known as “responsibility love. This is the kind of love that exist between a man and his wife that makes them to still stay together and perform their duties to each other even when they are no more attractive to each other and affection is longer gone. This is what remains in marry marriages, when it depart from home (it always the last to depart among the five faces at love in marriage) the next is likely to be separation and divorce.
ð Phase 4- Passion. This is known as “sexual love”. It is the aspect of love that makes the man to desire to sleep with his wife and vice versa. If it exists between unmarried people, will call it lust. Most of the time wives are the first to lose this face of love. In fact, it is one of the thing a woman lose when she is unhappy with her husband, thereby leading to sexual denial of her husband.
ð Phase 5- Compassion. It is known as God kind of love (Agape). It is love unusual, it is not base on the outlook, body chemistry, feelings or happenings around us. It is love that is deep rooted in kindness and acceptance. It is a sacrificial love. Unfortunately very few couples got married base on this kind of love most women based their marriages on emotional love, while men base their on attraction and passion.
The danger of other aspect of love needs compassion to be stabilized, as they have no root of their own. Please note that all the five faces of love are needed in your home, if your marriage must colourful.
I will be writing on each of this faces of love in the subsequent articles, so as to open your eyes to how to develop and maintain each of them.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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