Enemies of Love Pt 1
– Bisi Adewale
God designed marriage for our glorification not for our downfall, just as a father in his right thinking whishes good plans for his children so is the same with God. But despite this, many couples are living as if in battle field, a lot of homes are in shambles, a lot of people are just enduring their marriage, many are divorcing, many former soul mates are now ordinary housemates. In fact, some are now cell mates, living as if they are in the same prison cell.
I want us to expose things that destroy love in homes, things that turns jolly friends of yesteryears to sworn-enemies of today.
1. Bad Spiritual life. Failure to give God a chance in our lives will affect our marriages adversely. When we depart from God and start to demonstrate “works of the flesh” as exposed in the Bible (Galatians 5:19-21). There is no way the marriage will not deteriorate and become a battlefield marriage. If love must blossom in that marriage; then you must give room to the PRINCE OF PEACE to reign supreme in your life and in your home. (Genesis 1:1-5, 14-19).
2. Ignorance (Proverbs 24:3-7, 14:1). Ignorance is a major enemy of true love in marriage. Most couples lack basic knowledge of what makes marriage work; they behave so ignorantly that you will wonder whether they ever go to school or see the four wall of university. The truth is our academic qualifications, Bible College or seminary did not prepare us for a successful marriage. Management schools only teach 4 “Ms” of management not the “BIG M”-MARRIAGE, that is why you see CEOs, Managers, etc in very bad marriages, they know management but not “MARRIAGEMENT”
3. Busyness. Our schedules, businesses and priorities may stand against our marriages. When you are too busy to create time for your family, you are living dangerously. Make your spouse and your family top priority on your “to do” list. Time is the currency of marriage. Spend time with your spouse. SOS 6:11-13.
4. Third parties. For marriage to be brimming in love, it should involve only two people, as soon as third party is introduced, marriage become something else. Please bear in mind that your parents, siblings, children, friends, etc no matter how close they are, are just third parties. They are part of our family, but are not part of our marriage; they should not be allowed to influence us against our spouses. We must not hand over our marriages to people, no matter how close they are to us.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 40 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
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