Jan
25
2012
-Bisi Adewale
For this year to be better than last year, there are things you must put into it to live better. You must plan better; better plan is the mother of better result. So you need to do the following:
1. Close the Back Door of Your Family Finances. As you plan to make more money, sit down to check how to close the back door of your family finance. What kind of daily, weekly and monthly expenses are not worthwhile that must be curtail? What must you stop, drinking, eating, buoyancy? What kind of relationship is draining your pocket that must be done away with? You need to consider all these if Your 2012 Must Be Better Than 2011.
2. Have a Goal of What to Achieve In 2012. One wise man said, “Without a goal you will live like a goat”. What do you plan to achieve in 2012? How are you going to achieve that, please have a goal, write it down, work towards it and do everything to make sure you achieve in the year 2012.
3. Plan to Save Money Better. Decide to save money better next year than this year, saving money is saving future life. You know that saving money is not a gift of the spirit; it is a culture that must be consciously develop by every individual involved. It takes only you to build your money empire. It takes only you to safe your future by saving money.
4. Discipline Yourself. Put your flesh under control if you live and eat anyhow, you will live anyhow. Decide to close your eyes to things that take away destiny. No show-off next year, focus your goal, don’t buy something because your neighbor are buying. Will smith said, “Too many people spend money they haven’t earned to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like”. This is perfectly true. Discipline yourself, don’t spend money you haven’t earned, stop buy things you don’t need to impress people you don’t like. Are they impressed? No, you only make more enemy in the process.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
24
2012
- Pastor Bisi Adewale
May this year be 1000 times better than last year for you. May you enjoy good health, joy and protection this year. May your life radiate the life of Christ; you will see the end of this year and see 2013 in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
For this year to be better than last year, there are things you must put into it to live better. You must plan better; better plan is the mother of better result. So you need to do the following:
1. Plan to live for God this year. In my last article last year, I emphasize this but it can never be overemphasize that you need God as your senior partner in your family, life and business for you to live a life full of colour. Work in the path of righteousness this year. Spend time with God in prayer, fellowship and in the word of God. God is all you need this year to turn your life around, please don’t neglect him.
2. Plan to build your own house this year. You cannot be living your life as a tenant forever. It is dangerous to do that, make building your own house your goal this year and God will help you. Living in your own house makes a great financial sense. A man said when he moves to his former house few years ago at Gbagada Lagos, he was paying #150,000. By the time he moved to his house, the rent had been increased to #700,000 while his income did not increase at that level. Don’t joke about this; you need to move into your own house.
3. Plan to improve yourself. You can’t use stale wisdom to get better result. You need to develop yourself. By all means, make sure that you are better this year than last year; the world is waiting for a better edition of you.
4. Plan to spend more time with your family. George Lorimer said, “It is good to have more money and things money can buy, but it is good to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy”. Spend time with your family this year. Money cannot buy your family, don’t lose them because of money or because of your goals. Your family is very important; this you will know when you celebrate your 70th birthday.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
23
2012
Bisi Adewale
You can put an end to constant quarrel in your home; you can turn your home to a place to be all you need is God’s wisdom to put all weapons of war in your marriage to rest.
They are: -
1. Give room for the spirit of God: – Allow Holy Spirit to be your teacher and friend. Let the spirit of holiness and righteousness take over your totality (your mortal body). By so doing, you will fear the Lord and this will enable you to hate quarrel. (Prov. 8:13)
2. Readiness to forgive: – Be ready to forgive and forget any pain/grief caused you by your spouse. If you are truly crucified with Jesus, you won’t find it difficult to forgive, forgive your spouse no matter the gravity of his/her offences so that you can receive forgiveness from God. Any time, you bear grudges against anybody when you see him/her, your mind pricks. It means you can only be at peace when your mind/heart frees all your offenders. Forgive. It is good for your healthy and life. Unforgiveness hinders prayers.
3. Ability to Say Sorry: – This simple statement “I am Sorry” might save you from a lot of troubles if only you can use it every time there is a misunderstanding at home. This statement does not change your position or status but add value to you. Quarrel or misunderstanding among couples would be a thing of the past if only every man (Husband) or woman (wife) is ready to say “I am sorry”. If you find it difficult to say this, ask God to give you the grace. Lock up your self in the room and say it several times. You will find out that you will be able to apologise for any wrong deed against your spouse.
4. Understand your Spouse: – When you understand your spouse, it will reduce the frequency of your offence against him/her. You have got to study your spouse’s likes and dislikes so that it will be easy for you to live in harmony. Never compare your spouse with anybody. Don’t say, why are you not behaving like this or that person? Appreciate your spouse. Let him/her be happy for marrying you. Take delight in satisfying your spouse. By doing so, you are creating joy in your home.
5. Destroy Record of Offences: – Never keep records of your spouse’s wrong deeds. It is ungodly to start reminding your spouse what he/she did in the second year of your wedding when celebrating your tenth year’s anniversary. If God can forget your past sin and give you a clean bill of health, why can’t you forget your spouse’s past offences? Never keep diary of offence. It is ungodly.
6. Acceptability: – Accept your spouse, the way he or she is. Remember, we have gender or individual differences and you are from different families and background. Accept his/her way of life, and if there is need for a change or an improvement, introduce it wisely.
7. Never Revenge: – Don’t recompense evil for evil. Because you caught your man in an illicit relationship does not mean you should also engage in such act. It will never be a plus to your marriage but would worsen the situation. Never retaliate rather reconcile.
8. Be Prayerful: – Pray without ceasing. The best you can do to eliminate feud in your home is to pray. Commit your spouse to God in prayers. Don’t think it’s a little thing and you can handle it. The devil may penetrate if there is no power of God at work. Rebuke the spirit of quarrel and you will be glad you did. Use the key of prayer to silence the devil in your marriage. There is nothing you can do on your own. Leave the battle for God and He will fill your lips with testimonies.
9. Communication: – Let there be no communication breakdown in your marriage. Express your mind wisely, if there is anything you are not comfortable with, keep discussing with your spouse until you are both satisfied. Never bottle up any issue because you might explode in a negative way in the future.
10. Agreement: – Can two walk together, except they agree?” (Amos 3:3). Be ready to agree with your spouse. Never prove difficult. Let there be agreement in prayer, discipline of children, dealing with in-laws, finances, relations with friends, harmonizing career, etc. When there is agreement in marriage, success is inevitable.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
20
2012
Bisi Adewale
Bible-Based Marriage- Bible based marriage is based on biblical principles. It follows divine ordinance makes people involves happy continually, gives room for good and Godly parenting, eliminate the devil and satisfies God continually.
It involves the following:
- It is rooted on God’s word-God is involved in the choice making process; with prayer and divine direction as the major determinants, it involves pure courtship, Glorious wedding (Hebrews 13:4) and happy marriage.
- Headship of the Husband- Husband is the head. He is a leader not a boss, a husband not a horseman and the head not the headache. Here, husband knows that he is just the “figurehead”, the true head is God himself. Hence, he is careful to do everything in the fear of the Lord, not lording it over the wife. (Eph. 5:23-24)
- Wife as the subhead- The wife is ready to submit in reverence to God . However, she obeys, and worships her husband. (Ps. 45:10-11).
- Loving Husband- The husband is a lover, loving the wife as the Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:28-30)
- There is positive communication
- Husband has the final say but the wife is given the opportunity of influencing decisions.
- Third parties (children, in-laws, friends etc) are not given opportunity of coming between them (Genesis 2:24).
- There is humour and laughter in the home. A marriage without humour is like a car without bumper; very ugly.
- Prayer, family altar and bible study are common observances.
- There is constant romance in the marriage (1 Corinthians 7:4-5)
- Togetherness, oneness and unity are in the house
- Husband and wife stays in the same room; good communication is allowed and God is glorified
- Marriage is seen as permanent- No isolation, no separation, no divorce.
- In a Bible based marriage, men brings joy and stabilize the family (Eccl 9:9), while the women (the hearts of the family) have herald in peace, tranquility and comfort (Genesis 24:67)
- In the Bible based marriage, there is leaving, cleaving and loving; marriage is seen as a team work (Genesis 2:24-25, Amos 3:3)
- Sex is given a good place in this kind of marriage. The woman is not using it as a weapon or a tool for trade by barter etc; and the husband is not raping the wife. (1 Corinthians 7:1-5)
- There is truth, faithfulness, openness and sincerity
- Forgiveness is daily phenomenon.
- Childlessness does not terminate marriage here.
- Acceptance, contentment are involves.
Above all, God is the center of this kind of marriage. That is why it lasts and endures, godly children, affects the church and the environment positively. Any body that desires a great life should grow his marriage from olden days and modern day’s marriage to a Bible based marriage.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
18
2012
Bisi Adewale
MODERN DAYS MARRIAGE- These are marriages based on modern day’s value of “broad way life”. They are Hollywood-scripted marriages; marriages on equality, human rights and women right. Marriages of long nails, where the kitchens are the fast food joints. Women place their husbands at the mercy of house girls who serve the husband’s meals and even make his bed.
In modern day’s marriages, competition, run-away husbands and on the run wives are common. Children are in the boarding schools, the husband is on his way to London while the wife is preparing to leave for New York.
Cohabitation is common; pre-nuptial agreement is prevalent, the wife is not ready to submit and the husband is not ready to love; Selfishness, secrecy, stinginess, accusations and counter accusations, arguments, verbal attacks, physical assaults, vengeance, Unforgiveness, hatred, self-glorification, self-justification and building of “self empire” are very common.
Also common in modern days marriages are night crawling, partying, unfaithfulness, isolation, withdrawal and separation. Car, computer, handsets, video games, T.V. Sets, etc always compete with the wife in this kind of marriage while husbands struggle with their children to get their attention of their wives. Moreover, children are the next-of- kin of their mothers while husbands’ families are often their confidants, beneficiaries and next-of-kin.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
17
2012
Bisi Adewale
There are three major types of marriage. Two are not right, while only one is sanctioned by God. But in the world today, even among Christians, the three of them are observable. People should know these types of marriage to affect their lives positively.
(1) OLDEN DAYS MARRIAGE- It is cultural marriage based on Stone Age values. Unfortunately, learned people that are supposedly wise are still following these barbaric customs. (I Pet. 3:7)
In olden days marriage a man is seen as the head, a dictator or even a small god. He is not expected to get counsel from anybody, most especially his wife. In the olden day’s marriage, men see their wives as slaves, properties, baby making machines, sex objects, cooks, nannies, etc.
Wives are thought to be less intelligent, and morally deficient, are expected to be inherited by his younger ones when he dies. She is expected to be fetching water and firewood even when she is nine months pregnant and is expected to be beaten or “disciplined” by husbands when she misbehaves”.
Women are seen as hindrance to prayer, therefore many people think it is better to live in separate rooms or shun their meals. She is not expected to enjoy sex. If she shows she enjoys it, she is considered wayward, childlessness is seen as women’s fault and a woman that cannot give birth to a male child is seen as a failure. In this type of marriage, women are seen as foreigner while the husband’s relations are the real owners of the home. Husbands consider their families, their children and career before considering their wives.
Women, in olden day’s marriage, consider sex as something to be done for procreation only. Sex does not take place on Sunday (because it is the day of the Lord), in the afternoon (lest you give birth to albino), during pregnancy or breastfeeding.
In the olden day’s marriage, there is no romance, no friendship, no communionship, no companionship, no love, no affection, no intimacy, and no togetherness. Here, marriage is seen as a “deeper tenancy” relationship, rigid and static it is to be endured and abhorred.
Look forward for the next post on Modern Day’s marriage….
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
11
2012
- Bisi Adewale
Intimacy in marriage is not something you have to stop, it is not a destination, it is journey without an end, and you must continue to improve it, work on it, moving from one level to another.
What to do-
1. Comminicate deeply- communication is a vital key to intimacy, talk with your spouse talk, talk and talk. Talk like friends, talk like lovers, talk passionately, talk closely, talk emotionally.
2. Spend time together – involve you spending time together, you won’t talk; hence spend adequate time together as lovers.
3. Forgive each other – Don’t harbor bitterness, don’t keep malice, forgive generously.
4. Play together-Don’t just spend time together, but spend time together playing, play like children, play like friends.
5. Get involve in each other life- Don’t give room for solo life, work as love mate, get involve in each other’s life and business.
6. Pray together- do many things together but give prominence to your prayer time together couples that pray together will grow together.
7. Eliminate that party- Don’t allow anybody to care between both of you, rather eliminate them, be so close that nobody can come between you even your children.
8. Be open to each other- no secret no dark room, no skeleton in your cupboard, be open, be transparent
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Jan
2
2012
Bisi Adewale
Many things are involved if changing your family financial level is your prayer. You can’t afford to be living at your present state, you need to get better, there is something better for you. Don’t get satisfied with little when much is available. Good is said to be the enemy of better and better the enemy of the best. Learn now how to change your financial level, to do this; do the following:
1. Right attitude. Have right attitude to life, money, work and relationship. Your attitude will determine your altitude in life. You can NEVER rise higher than your attitude, no it is impossible. Don’t be desperate to make money, rather be desperate to help people; your wealth is in the hands of people you helped.
2. Creativity. Money flows naturally to creative mind. Creativity is said to be the mother of productivity and productivity is the mother of prosperity. Engaged your mind to think great thoughts and let your hand go to work to make it happen.
- Learn to do old things in a new way
- Bring out entirely new ideas and products.
- Combine two ideas to form a new one.
- Think about how to add value to existing ideas.
When you engage your creativity, your prosperity becomes as certain as sun rising tomorrow.
3. Self-Development. To become creative, one thing is very important, it is called self development. You can’t be better than your development and nobody can develop you for you; it is self-effort. Develop yourself, know better this year than you knew last year. Be a better you. A new edition of your personality, you can’t rise higher than you know.
4. Financial intelligent. One of the areas to really develop yourself is in the area of financial intelligent. Money will never make you rich, it is financial intelligent that does that. Much money without financial intelligent can even lead to disaster. Go ahead, learn more about money, the right way to make it, right way to save, spend and give it out, how to add and multiply your money, etc.
5. Savings. One areas of financial intelligent you must develop is savings, to be safe in the future, save money today. It is not all money that is spendable, some should be save, you need to learn how, where and when to save money.
6. Investment mentality. Don’t just save that money, go ahead invest it in the right place. You also need to learn about this and make it your habit to invest.
7. Responsibility. Do you really want God’s blessing, then do your responsibilities. You can’t be amassing wealth, making money, saving it and investing without taking good care of your family members.
Your spouse and children must never be neglected. If you do, your life will not provoke the blessing of the Lord, take good care of your people.
8. Giving. You must also learn to give. Give to people who are lesser than you. People who cannot pay you back, people who are in need. This will bring God’s blessing into your life, family and business. Give to God, His work and the needy and preserve your future.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Dec
31
2011
-Pastor Bisi Adewale
Many things are involved if changing your family financial level is your prayer. You can’t afford to be living at your present state, you need to get better, there is something better for you. Don’t get satisfied with little when much is available. Good is said to be the enemy of better and better the enemy of the best. Learn now how to change your financial level, to do this; do the following:
1. Vision. The best thing to do is to have a vision of where you want to be, don’t just say I want to live better, I want to be a millionaire, I want to be a better person, rather say this is my financial vision, this is my progress vision. I want to achieve so and so by so and so time, write it down boldly and work towards it. It is as far as you can see. If your mind can conceive it, your hands can receive it.
2. Positive Confession. If you want your financial life to change, then change the way you talk, stop saying “there is no money”, “I am broke”, “this country is bad”, “hunger will soon kill me”, etc. if you change what you say, it means you’ve ordained angels of the Lord to help you, they can only do what you say, they only do what you say. They are your minister; if you say it is well, they will ensure it is well. If you say something contrary, you will get the harvest. So change what you say and prepare yourself for a better result.
3. Self Discipline. What you need may not be more income after all but more discipline. Change the way you spend money, what you eat, drink, the kind of pleasure you enjoy that is draining your pocket. You will need discipline to “tie-down” your income and spend less money and you also need discipline to make more money. Learn to think creatively. Discipline start from the mind, if your heart is not discipline to think rightly you will not go far in life because “mind is the man”. If your mind is full of bitterness, resentment, lust, hatred, etc you are not likely to be able to use that mind to do the right thing. You also need to discipline yourself about what you do with your time. Using hours before the television is not right, do you know that people that are always in the news you are watching do not have time to watch it? If you too want to be in the news; do something better with your life. Spending hours on the internet surfing pornographic sites is one of the most foolish things you can do to your life. Get discipline, sleep less; millionaires are not sleepers, sleepers have poverty as their sleep mates.
4. Diligence. “Seeth thou a man that is diligent in his business? He shall stand before kings, he shall not stand before mean men”. Proverbs 22:29. You can’t be lazy and turn things around. No! you can’t be fond of tying towel round your waist by 10:00am on Monday morning and amount to anything in life. No, you can’t. Hard work is the answer to hard life, if you sleep when you suppose to be working, you will beg when you suppose to be a giver.
5. Right Association. Association determines position. Your company determines your destiny. People you go out with will determine whether you will go up or down. Your best friend should be your God, you can’t go far without him, you need to be genuinely born again and live for God because righteousness exalts a nation, sin is a reproach to anybody. Your friend should be somebody who love God and live according to His dictates, if they are not; they will help you to waste your life and destiny. When you have good friends, they make you better. “Iron sharpneth iron, so a man sharpenth the countenance of his friends”. Proverbs 27:17. Avoid keeping company with opposite sex that will lead you to immorality and errors. If you must have sex then go back home to your wife, don’t destroy your life, be wise.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
Dec
29
2011
Bisi Adewale
The truth is, you can live in January as in any other month; you can live without being broke, if you understand what it takes to “tie down” your money. I will show you some of them here:
1. Plan your Life. What do you really want for yourself, what do you really want in the New Year?
Plan now. Much money without planning will make you spend endlessly and run into debt. Plan your life and live better.
2. Have a Budget. Know the income available, know what you want to buy, categorized them into NEED and WANT or LUXURY, SHOW-OFF, NECESSITY. Go for only necessity, save money you would have spent on luxury and show-off.
3. Spend Less. By all means, spend lesser than you would have spent.
4. No Show-Off. Are you buying that clothes to show your ‘enemy’ in the village that you have arrived’? Are you buying that car, wristwatch, television, handset, etc just to show people the level of your wealth? Anything you buy just to impress or hurt others is not for you, it is a show-off.
5. Pre-Festival Purchases. Buy everything you need far away from festival time. My wife used to buy our children “Christmas clothes” in September, rice, beans and other ingredients in October and November, gifts that we want to give out to our loved ones also in November. With this, we are able to avoid high prices of “rush-time purchases”.
6. Buy Later. There are things you can decide to buy later, avoid buying things during “rush hours”.
7. Remember January. As you are writing that cheque, paying that bill, withdrawing from that ATM, always remember J-A-N-U-A-R-Y
8. No Unnecessary Travelling. Must you travel at Christmas period? Why not before that period or after? You know transportation is always costly during the festival and will always involve unnecessary spending.
9. Plan for School Fees. Plan for the payment of children’s school fees, some wise parent pay before the end of December as soon as they collect their December salary. With this, they won’t spend the money during Christmas.
10. Use Bank. Don’t bring all your money home, keep it in the bank. Avoid the temptation of withdrawing everything; it is like spending your blood if you do.
11. Control ATM. Who is in charge? You or your ATM? Some people enjoy the card and love the machine; I can’t remember using my ATM Card this year, I don’t allow it to control me; no, I am in charge; it is just a card. Base your spending on your pocket, don’t rely on ATM, if you can’t control it, give it to a trusted friend or mentor during this period.
12. By all means, spend below your means. Never spend above your means, not even within your means. Spend below your means. Yes. Spend lesser than you can afford, that is wisdom, that is the foundation of surplus and mother of wealth. Be wise!
I wish you happy New Year in advance and prosperous 2012.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, He is an international conference speaker and an author of more than 52 books on marriage and family life, singles, love, sex and purity and intimacy. He is the host of family T.V. program called Family Booster Moments.
Get daily lesson and teaching and articles from his blog: bisiadewale.com and You can also get his resources and also send an mail to familybooster01@yahoo.com. for any counselling issue. Visit http://www.bisiadewale.com for daily updating!
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